Chris Uggen's Blog: busy weekend at the cape

Sunday, January 07, 2007

busy weekend at the cape

both my kids awakened with great expectations saturday morning. by sundown, however, they were both staring down some pretty big disappointments. as a parent, i try to be supportive without aiding and abetting the making of excuses or the pointing of fingers. mostly, of course, i just try to be there.

now that they are teenagers, the stakes seem higher and their disappointments more clearly mirror the sort of disappointments that i face in my putatively adult world (e.g., professional rejections, relationship problems). fortunately, they've also begun to develop more adult-like and constructive ways of dealing with these disappointments. they each hashed it out with close friends in their preferred manner (for one, this involves sharing rapid-fire phone, text, and email messages; for another, this involves sharing an obscene number of tacos at taco john's six-pack saturday).

by the end of the night, i'd heard laughter from them both. all in all, it was a beautiful day.

2 Comments:

At 9:40 AM, Blogger jt said...

new parent's heart is breaking.

 
At 11:01 PM, Anonymous chris said...

hey, new parent. i see enough children's hospitals to know that my kids' problems are no big thing. two old lyric strings come to mind:

1. any minor world that breaks apart falls together again

2. the hurt and the anger, and the joy of the pain

all just part of growing up, i guess.

 

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